Diane Wing

When was the Last Time You Felt Supported?

by Diane Wing, M.A.

You may not know what it feels like to be supported, but you do know how it feels when you’re not. You stagnate, your self-worth diminishes, depression and anxiety rise, and your level of hope declines. Finding others to support you may be challenging depending on your environment and circumstances.

If you have supportive friends, relatives, and colleagues, that’s a powerful means of staying motivated. But when you feel abandoned, there are still ways to gain the support you need to chug down your chosen path.

1. Nature – The Japanese call it forest bathing. I call it walking in the woods. Natural environments are highly supportive in that they bolster our energy reserves, clear negativity from our systems, and help shift our perspective toward positive ways of thinking. A babbling brook speaks to us of going with the flow despite the obstacles that get in the way. The trees – alive and fallen – tell us of striving for the highest good and knowing when to accept the inevitable. Wild animals scampering through the forest remind us of the importance of play to balance our work and focus. Tap into this abundant support available free at any local park.

2. House Pets – It’s amazing how understanding your dog, cat, bird, or pot belly pig can be when you’re down. They look at you and feel your pain, listening and knowing the essence of what you’re going through. Hugging them and providing love and support to them comes back to you tenfold. They can elevate your state of mind. Their unconditional support is administered with a nudge, a snuggle, or quiet companionship. They can make you feel valued like no other being on earth, reminding you of your caring and loving heart and lifting your spirit to feel ready to tackle the next challenge.

3. Online Communities – When physical human presence isn’t an option and it feels like no one understands you or what you’re trying to do, there are countless online communities available that address all kinds of needs and goals. They are comprised of people who are going through the same thing you are, so they understand the pain and challenges. Sharing stories of similar strife helps you to know you’re not the only one going through it. Hearing experiences that helped get beyond the slump provide useful ideas to try in your own life.

4. Support Groups – Like the online communities, local support groups for whatever the issue is, whether it’s personal or business challenges, are available. When there is a need to feel live support from likeminded others, this is the best way to connect and to feel understood. These groups emphasize that we are all experiencing similar issues and that there is a need to relate to somebody who “gets it.” Some require joining for a nominal fee and others are no cost. For medical or emotional issues, these groups may be covered by insurance.

5. Professional Support – Whether it’s a class, private coach, or health professional, it’s important to seek out the help that aligns with what you’re going through. Waiting too long to address loneliness, stagnation, the need to learn a skill or gain the knowledge you want to have, or even to feel inspired can put you in a real slump that is harder to get out of. Accumulated energy in a negative direction digs a deeper hole. The key is to clear that negativity before it becomes overwhelming. 

6. Self-support – There are multitudes of self-help books waiting to provide the guidance you need. Read the reviews and look into the author’s life philosophy before making your selection. Do they align with your goals and your issues? Does the approach speak to you? Once you’ve made your selection, try the recommendations suggested by the author to overcome whatever the issue is and to help you feel uplifted. Simply reading the book and putting it aside won’t serve to make you feel supported. When you try the ideas in the book and they are effective, you’ll gain confidence and recognize that you have the ability to raise yourself up in your time of need.

Ultimately, trust yourself to choose the right people to connect with and to surround yourself with. If they make you feel inspired, valued, and encouraged, that’s how you know they are the ones that bring positive energy to your life. If you’re having a hard time finding this type of person, then try the suggestions above. 

I’d love to hear your story of the ways you find support. If you’d like to share, shoot me an email by replying to this message.

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September 9, 2018
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